Serving as a family caregiver for your senior loved ones is not an easy job. Raising and caring for your own kids and family, plus balancing work and providing necessary care and oversight for Mom or Dad can be incredibly overwhelming.
Choosing senior home care services for Mom or Dad is something to be proud of, but sometimes for family caregivers, it can feel like a failure. We hear from many family members who feel guilt over the decision. If you’re wrestling with this emotion right now, know that you are not alone!
Conflicted emotions are normal.
It’s completely normal to feel guilt and stress over choosing senior home care services for Mom or Dad. But, it’s also important to recognize that home care will help Mom or Dad stay healthy, happy and home, while also removing some of your stress.
It’s okay to initially feel guilty, but it’s also important to let it go. Remind yourself that you are doing what’s best for your senior loved one, your spouse and kid(s), and yourself.
Move past feelings of guilt.
Keep these points in mind when addressing and moving on from any feelings of guilt that may be plaguing your mind:
Mom or Dad is in highly-trained hands.
While no one loves your family member more than you, home care services are administered by trained medical professionals who are well equipped for a range of health issues and/or challenges.
You’re not giving up on your loved one.
While it may feel like you are giving up or turning your back on Mom or Dad, nothing could be further from the truth. Instead, you’re merely changing your role. You’ll always be involved in your loved one’s care, but now you can focus more on your personal relationship with Mom or Dad.
You’ll be better equipped to care for everyone.
Handing off some caregiving duties will let you focus on your spouse and kid(s), and especially your own needs. If you allow yourself to become burned out, you won’t be of much use to your loved one (or to others in your life).
The peace of mind in knowing that a trained, caring professional is caring for Mom or Dad can provide immeasurable relief. It’s important to take some time to focus on your physical and emotional well being.
You may be alleviating Mom or Dad’s own sense of guilt.
It’s common for older adults to feel guilt over the time and effort necessary for loved ones to provide care. No one wants to be a burden, and seniors are especially adept at noticing the stresses you bear.
They know that being a caregiver is hard work and may feel bad about how much you’re sacrificing. When you choose to augment your care for Mom or Dad with home care services, your loved one can feel much better knowing that you’re able to restore some balance.
Your loved one may be more comfortable.
Having a non-family member assist with intimate tasks may be preferable for your loved one. He or she may feel more comfortable being helped by an outsider to bathe or use the toilet, for example.
Mom or Dad may be more likely to bring up concerns.
Your loved one may not wish to burden you with details about new symptoms or troubles; however, Mom or Dad may feel more comfortable bringing up concerns with a professional caregiver.
Find the right level of care for your loved one.
Here at Interim HealthCare, we offer a range of home care services to help keep your senior loved ones happy and healthy. Learn more about senior home care services, or specialized home care services here at Interim Healthcare, or contact your local office to get started.